One of my favourite books by Paulo Coelho, The Witch of Portobello. These are one of my favourite parts from the book.
The question of what is a teacher has played a role in my life since reading this is my high school period.
‘What is a teacher? I’ll tell you: it isn’t someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give of her best in order to discover what she already knows’.
In most cases it is women who are bothered by the idea of dieting or losing weight. Although, eating disorders are experienced by both male and females. Reading this next part left a mark in my life as I turned away from the media’s perception of being “thin”.
‘We have survived for all these millennia because we have been able eat. And now that seems to have become a curse. Why? What is it that makes women at forty years old, want to have the same body that they had when they were young? Is it possible to stop time? Of course not. And why should we be thin? We don’t need to be thin… Eat in moderation, but take pleasure in eating: it isn’t what enters a person mouth that’s evil, but what leaves it. Remember that for millennia we have struggled in order to keep from starving. Whose idea was it that we had to be thin all of our lives? Use the energy and effort you put into dieting to nourish yourself with spiritual bread. Respect that and you will get no fatter than passing time demands. Instead of artificially burning those calories, try to transform them into the energy required to fight for your DREAMS’.
Women curve but still crave for love. So tinder gives singles the opportunity to meet new and complex people. However, it is not just for the singles but married couples too.. Yes open relationships are as normal as your latest pout.
The app continues to grow rapidly every second as more users sign up. I was fascinated by the look of drooling men and dreamlike husbands but they always left me with the little itch that he’s definitely a catfish. I would browse on my friends profile just to see what exactly has this app got them all glued up. The secret of tinder is the endless swiping of “too-good-to-be-true” hunks and sexy women. But funny enough I found myself downloading the app and thinking about the perfect profile to post up. Unfortunately I’m still hesitant to sign up, and come across desperate bachelors.
At the end of the day it works for some and it doesn’t for others. If you know what you are looking for on tinder you are more likely to find your match. Otherwise if you are still undecided like myself, take a step back and climb a mountain to find your match. (jokes). You could find your match like Harley Quinn and the Joker.
In Women’s HealthMagazine this Tinder App has some interesting facts
Did you know?
30% of tinder users are married
Common age group is between 18-34
More male than female users
Research Firm GlobalWebindex, Tinder, Women’s Health Magazine
Since it is a celebration of a woman’s month, lets look at one of the films that embrace the victory of women. Alice in wonderland.
Alice shows the interpretation of not an ideal Victorian young woman but rather a rebellious, confused and unpredictable teenager. During this Victorian period, Alice’s character would have been seen as a disgrace and disrespects her tradition. The author, Carroll, poses intentions to show how women can either choose their own paths or to conform to what society (Victorian) finds acceptable. Auerbach also identifies Alice as not the presentable example of a Victorian girl. (Carroll, 1968: 63).
Alice is more intrigued in the fantasy world and is uncomfortable with the classic appeal of looking formal and secure. She has little memory of her childhood which seems to be wiped out and she believes that whatever she can remember is from a dream as it is too unreal to believe. She is confused and lost in the beginning of her journey but eventually overcomes obstacles that make her a new version of what a woman is.
The Victorian world was rather boring and formal for Alice’s imagination; the fantasy world excited her and is different from what she knows. She feels stagnated in a world of submissiveness that her mother tries to prepare her for and to marry like any other Victorian girl. The decisions she makes from abandoning the altar and following The White Rabbit leads her to the unknown and her rise of curiosity builds up once she falls in the hole. She shocks the crowd that she left behind, which is not seen as appropriate for a female to reject and question the “male domination”. Making her own decisions expose the truth that females are capable of thinking and doing as they please just like men do. (Rickard, 2010).
Despite the actions of Alice rebelling against Victorian society, she is conscious of this and reality hits her once she makes sense of what is happening around her with her friends in Underland. She becomes conscious and determine to continue the journey that seems dangerous and more suitable for a male figure. Instead she shows the growth of female consciousness from feeling inferior, lost and uncertain to bravery, ambition and self-confidence.
There are some stereotypes throughout the story. The Victorian society chose to not acknowledge that women are capable of acting and thinking for themselves, they had to conform to what the male species wanted or desired. Females were rather thought of as weak and less important. Society has played a role in carrying on the tradition of being submissive and turning it into a norm. At the end of the day women have the decision to both act and think with their own desires like Alice or to be what society expects them to be. (Thessayist, 2011).
This book is written from a unique writer, Alice Walker, that tells a story of black women and which some parts could be a story of her own as a black woman. She demonstrates the brutal living conditions of what women face and how they live with abusive, arrogant male partners with more pressure from the white domination. Walker intends to show the imbalance of freedom, liberation and equality. The main character, Celie, becomes a link towards female consciousness as she goes through a journey of hardship and later a heroine. (Ping & Jinling: 2006).
Women are transformed to what they are usually known for to unheard stories like those of Celie’s story. Gender roles are questioned and the concepts of married wives at home are revealed under shocking circumstances. Celie acts as a voice for young girls that go through a journey of silence and no control over their livelihood. The black cultural heritage is presented into the book and Walker challenges the domination of the male species which is quite similar to the white domination; the desire to control.
LANGUAGE AND GENDER
Walker’s work is more of a Black feminist, not only does she point out the patriarchal oppression but voice out the stories of black women. Walker demonstrates the lines between femininity and masculinity. She develops her characters through analysing gender roles and the impact they have on one another.
Gender is explored through language; men and women use the same words but can be said differently. When a woman embraces her feminine side it becomes part of her culture which Simone de Beauvior states. Nettie sends a picture to Celie of the Olinka wives and talks about how these women were treated remind her so much of their vicious father. They lived in a male dominated environment and had to respond to the men’s instructions. The women are taught a submissive language as to always obey while men use language to gain power. Power is only known to be for a male being only and since women are not educated their first goal is to marry in the Olinka culture. Tashi’s parents were not supportive of her interests of studying and learning with Olivia (Celie’s daughter); she can only be regarded as something once she marries. They believed that a woman’s identity can only be defined through her husband and the greatest victory would be to marry the chief. Once a woman rebels against her husband she will be sold and is considered useless.
A bravery character, Sofia, that chooses to not be suppressed by anyone even the white domination. She stands up for herself and fights her way through abusive men. Her strength to fight back makes Harpo father dislike her more. Harpo tries to be the masculine one and have control over Sofia but he has been following instructions from his father that he does not know how to take control. Sofia has masculine features and seems to be in more control over their relationship. However later on, Sofia gets a new boyfriend that has the common features of a tall black masculine man but is not violent and harsh; Sofia is still able to remain the dominant figure in the relationship. Walker shows the intention of women having the desire to think as they please and to act against violence and inequality with a character like Sofia.
Shug has both feminine and masculine characteristics, she in between the lines of what is expected from a woman and what a woman desires. Shug introduces Celie to a world of freedom, bravery, and happiness. Celie becomes more aware of her sexuality and attraction towards Shug. Shug also inspires Celie to sew pants not only for men but for women too; they grow into having a more than a “friend” relationship.
Shug makes Celie aware of God, she describes God as “it” and is everywhere around us including the “color purple field”. The God that Celie prays to and writes letters to is right beside her. When she realises that God is actually in every aspect of her life just like how nature surrounds her, she begins to refer God as Dear Stars, Sky. Trees, Everything. Her image of God transforms from a white male figure that the white race describes Him as to a loving Mother Nature which Shug shows to Celie.
The gender conflicts experienced in society can only be explained through social relations. How men and women treat one another socially becomes their everyday routine and it is up to individuals to act to according to how they feel what may be right or normal. Overall race plays a role in the social environment; one is treated differently based on their race which impacts their social interaction towards others. Miss Millie (the mayor’s wife) takes advantage of Sofia by mistreating her and putting her in prison, she then later becomes her maid. Sofia had a stable financial status with her boyfriend and could not tolerate the unfairness of the white race, but Miss Millie could still take away everything away from her because she is white and represents the male domination.
In the black culture even the different shades of colour, makes people treat them differently. Mr._’s father disapproves of Shug, simply because is considered as “black as tar”. On the other hand, Squeak, which is Harpo’s girlfriend, is more pride in her lighter complexion. She discovers she is related to Bubber Hodges, her uncle (a white man). This explains her lighter complexion that the black community finds pleasant especially to men. When she goes over to Hodges to help Sofia with her time in jail, she is raped by her own family member. Squeak is still considered weak, vulnerable and insecure even though she has a white relation. The authority seems to only belong to men and this shows a cycle of abusive men whether black or white. (Pi-Li Hsiao, 2008).